Frequently Asked Questions

The primary focus of the disciplines of therapy and coaching differ dramatically by the very way they are defined. Thomas Leonard, the Father of American Life Coaching at Coach University defines coaching as a “client and coach becoming a team, focusing on the client’s goals and needs and accomplishing more than the client would alone.” Merriam-Webster’s definition of psychiatry states that it is a “branch of medicine that deals with mental, emotional, or behavioral disorders”.

  1. You believe you have depression, severe anxiety, or addiction issues.
  2. You believe you have a mental illness.
  3. You engage in self-harming behaviours.
  4. You spend the majority of your coaching session ventilating about negative emotions and stressful situations in your life.
  5. You become defensive or overly sensitive to constructive criticism.
  6. You have fears or phobias that seem extreme and resistant to change.
  7. You avoid talking about certain issues, out of fear, embarrassment or shame, or poor attentional control.

Many things, but the most important are:

  • You start listening to yourself and respecting your inner guidance system.
  • You take more effective and focused actions.
  • You stop putting up with what is keeping you small.
  • You create momentum allowing quick results that are achieved with ease.
  • You set clearer goals than you might have without the coach.

Life coaching, is not a “pill” — time and effort reap results, in particular when the goal is to break old patterns and develop new ones. I ask for at least a three-month commitment but strongly encourage that you stick with the process for six months or as long as it is benefitting you. That being said, you are totally free to stop at anytime if coaching is not working for you.

The short answer to this question is no. It is entirely possible to shift every relationship by shifting the way one person behaves and reacts. And while it might be your wish to have your partner be gung-ho about coming for couples coaching, he or she may not be ready yet. That needn’t affect that progress that you can make on your part nor influence how it will impact your couple.

Coaching is somewhat meditative for me. Each session is an opportunity to quieten my mind completely allowing me to listen calmly and hear exactly what you are and are not saying. I listen with compassion and without judgment.

A vital aspect of coaching is asking relevant and often challenging questions. My goal is to keep you curious about yourself that you may feel inspired to stretch question thoughts and beliefs. The point of each session is to make you more resourceful to find your own path going forward. The focus is entirely on what you want from life.

  1. Prepare on paper:

For your first session, it is necessary that you complete the intake form. You can get it here if you don’t have it already. It is important that you fill out the form when you have the time to really get quiet and honest. This form will help you to better understand what’s important to you, where you may trip yourself up and what you want to get out of coaching.

For consecutive consultations, is there something specific going on that you really want to talk about? Is there an experience from the week that you want to share? Do you have questions about the process, or have questions come up for you during the week? Do you need a reminder about a tool that was discussed? The #1 thing you can do is put pen to paper at some point before the session and make some notes about things that are important to you. This is an excellent way to practice getting your needs met. If you can practice and get good at this with your coach, then you will be able to transfer that skill to other areas of your life.

  1. Take notes:

Get yourself a coaching note book, a place where you can put the date and make notes as the session unfolds.  Coaching sessions go by quickly, and a lot of information comes up. Bring a notebook and pen and allow yourself to jot random words, phrases, and points. You will also be encouraged from time to time to write down specific things that are essential to your journey. Have a book where you can capture this all. This then becomes your resource for the time in between sessions. If you are not thinking about the sessions in between the sessions you will not make the changes that you seek. Get a coaching note book and give yourself the amazing feeling of reflecting back on the notes, tools and exercises you have been doing to progress. In a few short weeks these notes will add up, and I can almost guarantee that you will be impressed with the results.

  1. Take care of your needs: 

Before the session take a minute to assess your needs. Do you need to use the washroom, get a glass of water, turn off your cell? The more you can do to create a space for you to work uninterrupted, the more in the flow and in the moment you can be during your session. This is deep work that can not fully happen when you have distractions around you.

  1. Keep an open mind: 

There is no set way to get “there”. Allow your coach to take you to places that you have not considered before. Open yourself up to the possibility that your perspective can be shifted.  A good coach will prod you into places where you may not like to go, but with an open mind work on trusting the process.

  1. Trust in the process:

By making the decision to work with a coach you have made a decision to become more of who you really want to be. Set yourself up for success by trusting in the process that you have set in motion. A coach can catapult you to success, but you need to be prepared to do the work.

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